Writing a Letter to Your wife
One of the most meaningful tasks we can do as married men is to take
a moment and write a letter to our wife. You single guys, if you are
not doing this as you date, you should, and then don't stop once you
are husband and wife!
Pick any subject, it could be about anything.
Need some ideas?
Check out some sample letters here.
Grab a sheet of paper, a pen or pencil, an envelope, and yes... a
stamp. Then imagine being deployed overseas, or away on a work trip
before technology made it "simple" (maybe too simple) to make
contact. Back in the "old days" relationships were maintained by
handwritten notes and letters delivered by postal services or even
family members traveling west.
Sit down and write a few heartfelt lines, doodle some if you wish
such as hearts, googly eyes, or maybe some key phrases that mean
something to you both. Then, date it, sign it, and for extra bonus
points spritz it with your cologne (the one she likes, but not too
much. Just one shot from about 6 inches away from the paper.) Fold
the letter, place it in the envelope and address it to her at your
address. For the return address, just use the "to" address but
perhaps don't include your name. Place the stamp and mail it.
Trust me, this small amount of effort will communicate value and the
fact that "she" was on your mind and will yield incredibly positive
results.
Washing Your Wife's Hair
Come on, admit it, you always liked going to the salon, maybe as a
kid or secretly as an adult... To lean back and have your head
washed. Ahh, how relaxing!
Well, consider the blessing of suggesting that you wash your wife's
hair. Just clean out the kitchen sink, maybe use some "Bar Keepers
Friend" then throw some old lemons down the garbage disposal to get
rid of any unpleasant smells. Grab her favorite shampoo and
conditioner and a few towels...
This simple act of service can bring you closer as a couple and
provide a relaxing experience for your wife. Not only does it
demonstrate your love and appreciation for her, but it also offers a
chance to connect on a deeper level. Here's how to make it an
enjoyable and meaningful experience:
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Is Porn Really Okay?
The culture for the last 75 years has been telling us that fantasy
and masturbation is just part of normal Male sexual behavior. It is
just the way we are made, and everybody does it. So, don't worry
about it.
Beginning with the Kinsey Reports: "Sexual Behavior in the Human
Male (1948)" and then continuing with Hugh Hefner's publication of
Playboy (1953) pornography and self-pleasure aspects have slowly and
steadily moved from the realm of taboo into everyday themes of
television, movies and now, even into elementary school curriculums.
However, is the normalization of porn, masturbation and fantasy
improving civilization or is it hindering the depth of personal
relationships, warping our perceptions of human value and negatively
impacting our self-worth?
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Dealing With Depression
Our Value, self-worth or self-perception, failures, and wrong
choices effect us deeply. But, even small or huge successes can
result in "post-Olympic blues" or "post-competition blues and can
have drastic effects on how we feel as men.
Situations outside our control, such as accidents or tragedy,
company downsizing or other peoples choices can put us into a tail
spin of doubt and questioning the point of our existence.
What do we do? How do we cope?
How we handle these aspects of life determines the quality of life
we have and significantly impacts our relationships, both public and
private.
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Flowers for no reason
How many of us "martians" see a gift of flowers for our wives as
primarily a part of a sincere apology or as something for special
occasions like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Anniversaries or her
birthdays?
Here's a thought: Flowers for no reason other than "I was thinking
of you."
Most grocery stores have small bouquets for reasonable cost,
especially if you have something at home to use a vase. Swing by and
pick up some flowers and bring them home just to say "she is on your
mind."